{"id":227040,"date":"2026-06-04T10:24:39","date_gmt":"2026-06-04T08:24:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.parisselectbook.com\/2026\/06\/04\/you-take-everything-personally-this-innocuous-phrase-systematically-triggers-an-argument-according-to-couple-therapists\/"},"modified":"2026-06-04T10:24:39","modified_gmt":"2026-06-04T08:24:39","slug":"you-take-everything-personally-this-innocuous-phrase-systematically-triggers-an-argument-according-to-couple-therapists","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.parisselectbook.com\/en\/2026\/06\/04\/you-take-everything-personally-this-innocuous-phrase-systematically-triggers-an-argument-according-to-couple-therapists\/","title":{"rendered":"“You take everything personally”: this innocuous phrase systematically triggers an argument, according to couple therapists."},"content":{"rendered":"

Arguments within a couple<\/strong> are part and parcel of life together<\/a>, and a relationship without disagreements is rarer than you might think. However, when conflicts become repetitive and undermine the balance of the relationship, it becomes urgent to understand what really triggers them. <\/p>\n

The phrase that sets couples on fire<\/h2>\n

According to therapist Myriam Bidaud<\/strong>, founder of Atout Couple, there’s one remark that comes up again and again as a conflict trigger. In a video<\/a> shared on her YouTube channel, she points to the phrase: “You take everything personally”.<\/strong> This seemingly innocuous phrase has a destructive power that we must be wary of. <\/p>\n

In reality, the problem isn’t a lack of love or goodwill. Rather, it’s a concern with ill-defined psychological boundaries. The specialist speaks of “misplaced emotional responsibility”, which ends up creating tension<\/a> and progressive relationship fatigue. <\/p>\n

“Very often, it’s not a problem of love, or even goodwill, it’s a problem of psychological boundaries, a problem of misplaced emotional responsibility, which ends up creating tension, relationship fatigue and a kind of gradual loss of emotional security.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A pattern often repeated in relationships<\/h3>\n

The therapist describes a common situation: one of the partners is going through a difficult period, stressed<\/a> or discouraged, without necessarily expressing his or her emotions clearly. He then waits for the other person to reassure and stabilize him. The other person, often more sensitive and attentive, naturally takes on this supportive role. <\/p>\n

The real problem comes when confusion sets in. You no longer know what belongs to you emotionally and what belongs to the other person. This blurred boundary becomes the breeding ground for arguments within the couple. <\/p>\n